again about [TRY]

I just chat with my friend Vera, about my Define [TRY] posted blog.
Why when we said "I'll try.." usually we don't even bother to TRY.

Basic thing is that, human doesn't like to commit. So, if there's no written contract, no declaring vows in front of God, priest/pastor, congregations, etc., usually we tend to bail out.

Think the last time you bailed out your suppliers?
usually you DO try to do the best that you can.
Bailed out your boss?
no way, coz there's a written contract, job description, etc. lined up at the back of your head.

How about bailed out God?
Hmm... many people do sometimes, including me. With all our small mistaken steps. Why? coz there's no written contract with God-it's just about our trust and faith.
Some even go for the extreme way: ignore HIS being.

So, even just for God, we're brave enuf to bailed out, what's "I'll try to be there..." compare to that? I'll bet, we've bailed out that, many many many times....

Well, wanna try to change the paradigm?
Do commit on small things, including the [TRY] part

A friend in need is a friend in deed

In ‘Locking Arms,’ Stu Weber wrote a story which happened during the World War I: “Two buddies were serving together in the mud and misery of that wretched of European stalemate. Month after month, they lived out their lives in the trenches, in the cold and the mud, under fire and under orders.

“From time to time, one side or the other would rise up out of the trenches, fling their bodies against the opposing line and slink back to lick their wounds, bury their dead, and wait to do it all over again. In the process, friendships were forged in the misery. Two soldiers became particularly close. Day after day, night after night, terror after terror, they talked of life, of families, of hopes, of what they would do when (and if) they returned from this horror.

“On one more fruitless charge, “Jim” fell, severely wounded. His friend, “Bill,” made it back to the relative safety of the trenches. Meanwhile, Jim was laying and suffering beneath the night flares. Between the trenches. Alone.

“The shelling continued. The danger was at its peak. Between the trenches was no place to be. Still, Bill wished to reach his friend, to comfort him, to offer what encouragement only friends can offer. The officer in charge refused to let Bill leave the trench. It was simply too dangerous. As he turned his back, however, Bill went over the top. Ignoring the smell of cordite in the air, the concussion of incoming rounds, and the pounding in his chest, Bill made it to Jim.

“Sometimes later he managed to get Jim back to the safety of the trenches. Too late. His friend was gone. The somewhat self-righteous officer, seeing Jim’s body, cynically asked Bill if it had been ‘worth the risk.’ Bill’s response was without hesitation.

“‘Yes, sir, it was,’ he said. ‘My friend’s last words made it more than worth it. He looked up at me and said, ‘I knew you’d come.’”

Define: [TRY]

These are the definition of TRY, which i looked out from Cambridge Dictionary Online:

try (ATTEMPT)
verb [I or T]
to attempt to do something:

Keep trying and you'll find a job eventually.
If I don't get into the academy this year, I'll try again next year.
I've tried really hard but I can't persuade him to come.
I'm trying my best/hardest, but I just can't do it.
[+ to infinitive] I tried to open the window.
[+ ing form of verb] Perhaps you should try getting up (= You should get up) earlier in the mornings.

try
noun [C usually singular]
an attempt to do something:

They might just have a place left on the course - why don't you give it/have a try?
This will be her third try at jumping the bar.
You could ask him if he's willing - it's worth a try.

trier
noun [C] APPROVING
someone who tries hard to succeed in what they do, even if they fail:

She's a real trier, I'll give her that.

The interesting thing about it, if u see all the definitions, it always have a positive thing.. people do their best, even though at the end it didn't work out. That's "trying"!

BUT
that's what the dictionary says!

what about the reality?
When people says they'll try, usually it's just a polite way to say, "hey dude, am not interested!"
"I'll try to come" usually means, am not coming.
"I'll try to do it" means, am not gonna do it.
"I'll try.."
"I'll try.."
"I'll try.."

SO,
i found out a TRUE DEFINITION of the word "TRY".
Few days ago, I watched Oprah Show, and she had an author guest, who was defining what TRY means to him.
TRY or TRYING means: Failing with honor :)

so, just skipped the positive thing that I mentioned above, and just go to the failing part! :)

Come to think about it, itz totally true. When people said they'll try to come, most of them wud never turn out! Worst case is, they never even consider to come on the first place.

So..

TRY
failing with honor

"I'll try to come.." means, "am not coming.."
"I'll try to do it..." means, "am not gonna do it..."

This is totally the true definition! :)

Hmm ... what do you say?